Socialization Essay
“Do you see her? She’s so ugly. How much does she weigh?” These were the words I heard as I walked into school. I tried so hard not to cry. The girls at my school all hated me on the first day. I ignored them all day, and after school my mom picked me up and we started to go home when I looked at her and said, I “What’s wrong with me?” I asked my mom in the car on the way home after school. I started to cry, and she pulled over, and asked me what was wrong; I looked at her and said “I’m never going to fit in. Never going to have friends. I’m ugly, I’m stupid.” She looked at me and said “You’re beautiful, you’re perfect. And anyone who doesn’t see that is wrong.” I smiled at her, she smiled back, and we started driving again. I had been socialized so negatively by what society called beautiful. It was tearing me half like a rip in your favorite tee-shirt.
I have been both positively and negatively socialized by my class, religion, gender, and my belief on what true beauty is. I have always been taught what was right, and wrong; what to love and what to hate. I feel as though I have been told how I was supposed to live; who I was allowed to love; and what I was allowed to do. I was raised in a Christian home, but I never really truly listened to what I was being told. Christian rules are hard to follow, and even harder not to break. I have been negatively socialized by Christianity because of the amount of rules there are. They stress me out and make me feel like I’m not good enough. I have lied, and I have wanted something that my neighbor has. Its just human nature. And everytime I catch myself doing it, I feel like I’m not good enough for anyone. The rules are too hard not to break. Here are the “Ten Commandments”, these are the rules christians have to follow:
1.You shall have no other gods before me.
2.You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven
or on earth.
3.You shall not misuse the name of the Lord your God.
4.Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy.
5.Honor your father and mother.
6.You shall not murder.
7.You shall not commit adultery.
8.You shall not steal.
9.You shall not give false testimony against your neighbour.
10.You shall not covet your neighbour’s house...wife...etc.
These are the rules that all Christians have to follow.And its complicated to keep them because I want to have my own life, and make my own rules for myself. In this, it makes me upset because I know I can’t do this because it says how I should live, and what is right and wrong. Because it says that we should “Honor our fathers and mothers.” Even if that means letting them control your life.
I have been negatively socialized by my gender, and class, because almost all people to this day believe that true beauty is having pounds of makeup on, or having the skankiest clothes on. Society believes that women are weaker, and have less power, and can’t defend themselves, and don’t know what we want. But none of these stereotypes are true. True Beauty is a person's inner beauty or beauty found in nature. “It is time for parents to teach young people early on that in diversity there is beauty and there is strength.” We know that we are strong enough to fight back, to know what we want, and to stand up for what we believe in. Yeah, men are most of the time stronger than any given woman, but women have stronger will power. We know what we want, and when we want it, and how we want it done. Society sees women as someone who is easy to get in bed with, but I see women as strong, and beautiful without the makeup; without the stereotypes. I find that men most of the time go for the weaker women. The ones they can manipulate to get what they want out of them. They tell them they’re “beautiful” as a way of manipulation. They will use anyway they can to manipulate the woman. I’ve learned to avoid this because I know that I am truly beautiful. “True beauty isn’t what’s on the outside, but on the inside. To be truly beautiful, you have to have a beautiful heart.”(-Coco Chanelle) True beauty is someone who is confident in being themselves. They’re not afraid of what people will think of them, or how they will react when they find out who they really are. It is being who you are, or who you want to be without the fear of “I can’t be myself because people won’t accept me.” It's knowing you’re beautiful without the makeup. Without wanting to dress like celebrities like Miley Cyrus, or Rihanna; for example, wearing a beige colored thong, and a matching bra to a concert, or wearing a lace one piece leotard, and dancing around in a very provocative way. They do this and girls think it’s what is in style, and what society accepts, this is what they want because think it’s beautiful. But it’s not. Beauty is knowing you are beautiful on the outside, and the inside. And most girls struggle with this. Marilyn Monroe has a quote that says “To all the girls that think you’re fat because you’re not a size zero, you’re the beautiful one. It’s society who’s ugly.”
I have been negatively socialized by this because I am constantly torn between being who I truly am, and trying to be accepted for that, and trying to be what society calls “beautiful.” One of my favorite quotes from Mandy Hale says, “Outer beauty pleases the eye. Inner beauty captivates the heart.” It is a huge battle that I personally face because I know that I am never going to be able to overcome the battle of trying to be someone I’m not, and just being who I truly am. Because I know that when I can finally just accept who I am, and love who I am, and know that I am beautiful, I could accept that I am me. Also, I would be confident. I know that I’m not good enough, so I pretend to be confident to see if people will accept me for who I am. I know that if I were to believe that I was beautiful, I could be everything I have ever dreamed of being.
In conclusion, this essay was about how people can specify and organize themselves by, and into, certain social groups. I talked about how society thinks true beauty looks, and about how that affects that society has in our lives. It makes a huge difference in our lives to believe what true beauty is. Most girls think that it’s just what the magazines say is beautiful, or perfect. But it’s not. True beauty is when you can believe, and be confident in yourself. Once girls can find the true beauty, and stitch the tear back up and move on, and truly believe, and be confident in themselves, I believe that they could really change the way people think of themselves, and therefore, change the lives of other young women around the world. So think about this: would you rather be real and hated? Or faked and liked?
I have been both positively and negatively socialized by my class, religion, gender, and my belief on what true beauty is. I have always been taught what was right, and wrong; what to love and what to hate. I feel as though I have been told how I was supposed to live; who I was allowed to love; and what I was allowed to do. I was raised in a Christian home, but I never really truly listened to what I was being told. Christian rules are hard to follow, and even harder not to break. I have been negatively socialized by Christianity because of the amount of rules there are. They stress me out and make me feel like I’m not good enough. I have lied, and I have wanted something that my neighbor has. Its just human nature. And everytime I catch myself doing it, I feel like I’m not good enough for anyone. The rules are too hard not to break. Here are the “Ten Commandments”, these are the rules christians have to follow:
1.You shall have no other gods before me.
2.You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven
or on earth.
3.You shall not misuse the name of the Lord your God.
4.Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy.
5.Honor your father and mother.
6.You shall not murder.
7.You shall not commit adultery.
8.You shall not steal.
9.You shall not give false testimony against your neighbour.
10.You shall not covet your neighbour’s house...wife...etc.
These are the rules that all Christians have to follow.And its complicated to keep them because I want to have my own life, and make my own rules for myself. In this, it makes me upset because I know I can’t do this because it says how I should live, and what is right and wrong. Because it says that we should “Honor our fathers and mothers.” Even if that means letting them control your life.
I have been negatively socialized by my gender, and class, because almost all people to this day believe that true beauty is having pounds of makeup on, or having the skankiest clothes on. Society believes that women are weaker, and have less power, and can’t defend themselves, and don’t know what we want. But none of these stereotypes are true. True Beauty is a person's inner beauty or beauty found in nature. “It is time for parents to teach young people early on that in diversity there is beauty and there is strength.” We know that we are strong enough to fight back, to know what we want, and to stand up for what we believe in. Yeah, men are most of the time stronger than any given woman, but women have stronger will power. We know what we want, and when we want it, and how we want it done. Society sees women as someone who is easy to get in bed with, but I see women as strong, and beautiful without the makeup; without the stereotypes. I find that men most of the time go for the weaker women. The ones they can manipulate to get what they want out of them. They tell them they’re “beautiful” as a way of manipulation. They will use anyway they can to manipulate the woman. I’ve learned to avoid this because I know that I am truly beautiful. “True beauty isn’t what’s on the outside, but on the inside. To be truly beautiful, you have to have a beautiful heart.”(-Coco Chanelle) True beauty is someone who is confident in being themselves. They’re not afraid of what people will think of them, or how they will react when they find out who they really are. It is being who you are, or who you want to be without the fear of “I can’t be myself because people won’t accept me.” It's knowing you’re beautiful without the makeup. Without wanting to dress like celebrities like Miley Cyrus, or Rihanna; for example, wearing a beige colored thong, and a matching bra to a concert, or wearing a lace one piece leotard, and dancing around in a very provocative way. They do this and girls think it’s what is in style, and what society accepts, this is what they want because think it’s beautiful. But it’s not. Beauty is knowing you are beautiful on the outside, and the inside. And most girls struggle with this. Marilyn Monroe has a quote that says “To all the girls that think you’re fat because you’re not a size zero, you’re the beautiful one. It’s society who’s ugly.”
I have been negatively socialized by this because I am constantly torn between being who I truly am, and trying to be accepted for that, and trying to be what society calls “beautiful.” One of my favorite quotes from Mandy Hale says, “Outer beauty pleases the eye. Inner beauty captivates the heart.” It is a huge battle that I personally face because I know that I am never going to be able to overcome the battle of trying to be someone I’m not, and just being who I truly am. Because I know that when I can finally just accept who I am, and love who I am, and know that I am beautiful, I could accept that I am me. Also, I would be confident. I know that I’m not good enough, so I pretend to be confident to see if people will accept me for who I am. I know that if I were to believe that I was beautiful, I could be everything I have ever dreamed of being.
In conclusion, this essay was about how people can specify and organize themselves by, and into, certain social groups. I talked about how society thinks true beauty looks, and about how that affects that society has in our lives. It makes a huge difference in our lives to believe what true beauty is. Most girls think that it’s just what the magazines say is beautiful, or perfect. But it’s not. True beauty is when you can believe, and be confident in yourself. Once girls can find the true beauty, and stitch the tear back up and move on, and truly believe, and be confident in themselves, I believe that they could really change the way people think of themselves, and therefore, change the lives of other young women around the world. So think about this: would you rather be real and hated? Or faked and liked?